Judgements
Funny how we tend to judge people based on their looks, their education background, the way they speak, whom they mix with and the way they think without giving a second thought on the fact that the environment they were born and brought up shaped their personalities.
I knew this person at the factory. Once I saw her outside and I was in for a shock. The way she behaved, the people she was with and the way she spoke completely disgusted me. The image distorted my mind and I was feeling so upset until Theven told me this.
“Stop it. You cannot blame her for the way she behaves. For you, it may be disgusting but for her, it’s not wrong. That’s the way she had lived since she was born and for her, she sees nothing immoral in it. You look at it from your perspective and you find it sickening but remember, there might be some other person, brought up in a better environment than yours who might find the way you eat, dress up, speak and think entirely repulsive. “
That totally changed the way I look at a person. Now when I feel a person’s behavior is inappropriate, I tell myself it is not the person’s fault but the environment that he or she was brought up in. It also got me thinking. How would I be now if I was born in the same background like that girl? How would I be if I was born somewhere else, perhaps in another country? How would I be?
This life is so full of “if” statements that go into infinite loops but unlike programming, I just can’t fix it.
That reminds me of something else. Uma once told me when you look into the mirror, the image that you see and the image that another person sees of yourself is slightly different. Why? Because you see what you want to see. Freaky!
When I look at Nalin, I always see a little green lanky monster and all these while I thought she sees the same thing. Now with this newfound fact, I wonder what she sees of herself..Ekkkk!!! (Sorry Nalin, it’s just not your day! =) )
I don’t know if I am bad but there is someone new at my work place who just seems to step on my nerves every single day. I tell myself to calm down and remind myself, “he can’t change the way he is so you better accept him as just that” but no matter how many times I repeat that to myself, he just seems to irritate me in every possible way. I don’t want to hate him because I strongly believe for every action, there is a reaction so if I detest and get aggravated with his ways, someone else will feel the same for me. (Argghhh..Now even Newton’s third law of physics seems to tick me off!)
He sits and complains about his work. He looks at my screen and breathes down my neck when I’m doing my job. When I’m busy trying to figure out a problem, he comes and asks me if I have completed my work at least twice a day. (Why on earth would I be looking at the screen and scratching my head if I had finished my work, you idiot?!) He keeps asking me to help him with his work. He never takes any initiative to learn. He keeps saying he is sleepy. (I wake up at 5 am everyday, do you see me complaining?) Every 10 minutes, he stretches himself on his creaking chair like a big fat sloppy tabby cat, as if he had just saved the world. It really makes me cringe, flinch, recoil, cower and squirm in uttermost, complete, total, absolute, unlimited, supreme annoyance. Boy, I have run out of words to describe my vexation. It feels as if someone just used my finger to scratch the wall, if you get what I mean. That guy sure irks me like hell. Bluek!
He just annoys me so much until I have just stopped talking to him altogether. Just the occasional yes, no or a grunt when he asks me anything. Everytime he turns his head to talk to me, my mind screams “Oh nooooooo!”. In fact, there wasn’t a single exchange of words today (he sits just right beside me) and I’m happy. Such an irritating specimen.
Yes, I know I’m mean but I just can’t help it. He’s a good person no doubt for when I was sick, he even offered to go to the in plant clinic to get me panadol but I just can’t stand him. Sorry, I’m no saint, just plain exasperated me. :(
I knew this person at the factory. Once I saw her outside and I was in for a shock. The way she behaved, the people she was with and the way she spoke completely disgusted me. The image distorted my mind and I was feeling so upset until Theven told me this.
“Stop it. You cannot blame her for the way she behaves. For you, it may be disgusting but for her, it’s not wrong. That’s the way she had lived since she was born and for her, she sees nothing immoral in it. You look at it from your perspective and you find it sickening but remember, there might be some other person, brought up in a better environment than yours who might find the way you eat, dress up, speak and think entirely repulsive. “
That totally changed the way I look at a person. Now when I feel a person’s behavior is inappropriate, I tell myself it is not the person’s fault but the environment that he or she was brought up in. It also got me thinking. How would I be now if I was born in the same background like that girl? How would I be if I was born somewhere else, perhaps in another country? How would I be?
This life is so full of “if” statements that go into infinite loops but unlike programming, I just can’t fix it.
That reminds me of something else. Uma once told me when you look into the mirror, the image that you see and the image that another person sees of yourself is slightly different. Why? Because you see what you want to see. Freaky!
When I look at Nalin, I always see a little green lanky monster and all these while I thought she sees the same thing. Now with this newfound fact, I wonder what she sees of herself..Ekkkk!!! (Sorry Nalin, it’s just not your day! =) )
I don’t know if I am bad but there is someone new at my work place who just seems to step on my nerves every single day. I tell myself to calm down and remind myself, “he can’t change the way he is so you better accept him as just that” but no matter how many times I repeat that to myself, he just seems to irritate me in every possible way. I don’t want to hate him because I strongly believe for every action, there is a reaction so if I detest and get aggravated with his ways, someone else will feel the same for me. (Argghhh..Now even Newton’s third law of physics seems to tick me off!)
He sits and complains about his work. He looks at my screen and breathes down my neck when I’m doing my job. When I’m busy trying to figure out a problem, he comes and asks me if I have completed my work at least twice a day. (Why on earth would I be looking at the screen and scratching my head if I had finished my work, you idiot?!) He keeps asking me to help him with his work. He never takes any initiative to learn. He keeps saying he is sleepy. (I wake up at 5 am everyday, do you see me complaining?) Every 10 minutes, he stretches himself on his creaking chair like a big fat sloppy tabby cat, as if he had just saved the world. It really makes me cringe, flinch, recoil, cower and squirm in uttermost, complete, total, absolute, unlimited, supreme annoyance. Boy, I have run out of words to describe my vexation. It feels as if someone just used my finger to scratch the wall, if you get what I mean. That guy sure irks me like hell. Bluek!
He just annoys me so much until I have just stopped talking to him altogether. Just the occasional yes, no or a grunt when he asks me anything. Everytime he turns his head to talk to me, my mind screams “Oh nooooooo!”. In fact, there wasn’t a single exchange of words today (he sits just right beside me) and I’m happy. Such an irritating specimen.
Yes, I know I’m mean but I just can’t help it. He’s a good person no doubt for when I was sick, he even offered to go to the in plant clinic to get me panadol but I just can’t stand him. Sorry, I’m no saint, just plain exasperated me. :(
posted by BluePixie @ 8:32 PM
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