great looks or great personality?
A few weeks back, a colleague working in the same company as mine was telling me about how he was treated when he was fat and sissy looking and how he was treated when he became fit, muscular and better looking. He was sad, saying that the way he was treated when he was “ugly” was really bad.
A couple of days after that, I was talking to another friend of mine and he was telling me how people judge his personality based on his looks. Truly speaking, he is a very nice gentleman but his looks do not tell you so. Based on that, many people have bad impression about him and the way they treat him made him lose confidence in himself.
The conversation got me thinking about my life. True enough, when I compare now and then, the treatment I receive from strangers now is completely different from last time. I am not being vain by saying I am beautiful but 3 years ago, I used to look like a nerd, with baggy clothes, big glasses and horrible hairdo. No one bothered to look at me twice and the way people spoke to me, I was of no importance compared to my better looking friends. The only reason why I was well known in school was because of my academic achievements.
I used to be sad, when I saw that most of my friends were popular and guys were totally crazy over them. Until I was in my first year in MMU, I was still feeling that way.i had no self-confidence to make new friends and I was always conscious about how “ugly” I looked. Only towards the end of the year, I started changing my looks and I guess it’s not too much to say that I look better now.
Together with the change of looks, came the change of environment and perspective. People became friendlier and I received more attention but all that made me feel sick and angry. Why do they notice me now? Just because I look better? But I was the same person back then. I still had the same personality. From there,I managed to learn about sincerity. Those people who were there for me all the time, no matter how I looked are the ones whom I treasure the most.
I don’t understand something. Why is our society so based on good looks and not personality? Even skin colour is now used to measure looks. Yeah, anyone say inner beauty is better than external beauty but how many people put that into practice? Just because a person looks good, does that mean that he or she is a good person with great personality? I have seen many good looking people who behave like jerks and many average looking people who are beautiful angels of the earth.
Even at work place, I notice the difference. People are friendlier to certain people who are better looking than those who are not. Sometimes I sit and wonder, where does that put me? Do people like me for who I am or for how I look? How would they treat me when all the beauty fades away? Will I be cast aside and frowned upon? When I walk along the corridor or go for lunch with a friend, people look at me and acknowledge me and sometimes (depending on who is with me), totally ignore the other person. I used to think that is probably because she/he hardly smiles at anyone and I make the effort to smile and be friendly to them. Now I wonder, is it because of my skin colour or my face? Perhaps not everyone is like that. Maybe they do genuinely like me for who I am but some people take their own effort to come and talk to me. Why? I am not complaining that people are accepting me, it just makes me feel sad that they do not do the same to my companion in my work place because I know how he/she will feel as I have gone through the same thing before.
Truly speaking, I can say my friend is way much better than me personality wise. It’s just too bad people don’t take the effort to figure that out. At least he/she is blessed in one way, when people come and approach him/her, he/she knows most of the time that the person is sincere. I find it hard to sort that out, most of the people who come and speak to me are not.
It’s about time we put a stop to this ridiculous practice. Judgements should not be done based on how a person looks like. True, as humans, we are attracted to beautiful things but that does not mean that we must totally abandon the others because sometimes without us realizing it, we are making a person lose his self-confidence. First impression is a wrong thing to make, allow some time to get to know a person, be nice to everyone, no matter how they look. Never treat a person differently just because he or she is not beautiful or handsome.
Looks are just something given by God. He who gave it to us has all the rights to take it back anytime he wants. A life based on good looks is not forever. In the end, what’s in the heart and mind that matters most.
A couple of days after that, I was talking to another friend of mine and he was telling me how people judge his personality based on his looks. Truly speaking, he is a very nice gentleman but his looks do not tell you so. Based on that, many people have bad impression about him and the way they treat him made him lose confidence in himself.
The conversation got me thinking about my life. True enough, when I compare now and then, the treatment I receive from strangers now is completely different from last time. I am not being vain by saying I am beautiful but 3 years ago, I used to look like a nerd, with baggy clothes, big glasses and horrible hairdo. No one bothered to look at me twice and the way people spoke to me, I was of no importance compared to my better looking friends. The only reason why I was well known in school was because of my academic achievements.
I used to be sad, when I saw that most of my friends were popular and guys were totally crazy over them. Until I was in my first year in MMU, I was still feeling that way.i had no self-confidence to make new friends and I was always conscious about how “ugly” I looked. Only towards the end of the year, I started changing my looks and I guess it’s not too much to say that I look better now.
Together with the change of looks, came the change of environment and perspective. People became friendlier and I received more attention but all that made me feel sick and angry. Why do they notice me now? Just because I look better? But I was the same person back then. I still had the same personality. From there,I managed to learn about sincerity. Those people who were there for me all the time, no matter how I looked are the ones whom I treasure the most.
I don’t understand something. Why is our society so based on good looks and not personality? Even skin colour is now used to measure looks. Yeah, anyone say inner beauty is better than external beauty but how many people put that into practice? Just because a person looks good, does that mean that he or she is a good person with great personality? I have seen many good looking people who behave like jerks and many average looking people who are beautiful angels of the earth.
Even at work place, I notice the difference. People are friendlier to certain people who are better looking than those who are not. Sometimes I sit and wonder, where does that put me? Do people like me for who I am or for how I look? How would they treat me when all the beauty fades away? Will I be cast aside and frowned upon? When I walk along the corridor or go for lunch with a friend, people look at me and acknowledge me and sometimes (depending on who is with me), totally ignore the other person. I used to think that is probably because she/he hardly smiles at anyone and I make the effort to smile and be friendly to them. Now I wonder, is it because of my skin colour or my face? Perhaps not everyone is like that. Maybe they do genuinely like me for who I am but some people take their own effort to come and talk to me. Why? I am not complaining that people are accepting me, it just makes me feel sad that they do not do the same to my companion in my work place because I know how he/she will feel as I have gone through the same thing before.
Truly speaking, I can say my friend is way much better than me personality wise. It’s just too bad people don’t take the effort to figure that out. At least he/she is blessed in one way, when people come and approach him/her, he/she knows most of the time that the person is sincere. I find it hard to sort that out, most of the people who come and speak to me are not.
It’s about time we put a stop to this ridiculous practice. Judgements should not be done based on how a person looks like. True, as humans, we are attracted to beautiful things but that does not mean that we must totally abandon the others because sometimes without us realizing it, we are making a person lose his self-confidence. First impression is a wrong thing to make, allow some time to get to know a person, be nice to everyone, no matter how they look. Never treat a person differently just because he or she is not beautiful or handsome.
Looks are just something given by God. He who gave it to us has all the rights to take it back anytime he wants. A life based on good looks is not forever. In the end, what’s in the heart and mind that matters most.
posted by BluePixie @ 9:14 PM
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